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Stinking Thinking
Dear Monday Morning Coach Readers:
It's wonderful to have the opportunity to occasionally share a piece of excellent writing on a topic we all need to be reminded of from time to time: Stinking Thinking! Please enjoy the following by coach, consultant and trainer Randy Siegel. I bet you'll relate, as I did to his story about a vacation that could have been completely "washed out" had he not taken a look at his own "stinking thinking." Enjoy, and if you'd like to subscribe to Randy's ezine, send an email to randy@buildyourleaders.com.
Have an awesome week!
It's finally here, my much-needed vacation. I've rented an expensive condo overlooking the water on Ocracoke Island on the Outer Banks of North Carolina. And...and...it's raining. High winds angrily whip rain pellets against the window, and it's cold. "My vacation is ruined," I whine. Then I catch my reflection in the window. "What am I doing?", I ask. My friend Cheri Britton of Boomthinking would call this "stinking thinking." Stinking thinking is a form of self-sabotage and prevents us from living our best life. Like a shape- shifter, it takes different forms. See if you can recognize any of these in your own life.
Black and White Thinker: The black and white thinker sees no shades of gray. He heads right for the extreme. "I always screw up." "I never get anything right."
"Should-er": No matter the situation, the "should-er" second-guesses herself; she's always thinking about what she should have done. "I should have gone to Florida instead of the Outer Banks," I say to myself.
Wet Blanket: The wet blanket negates the positive, refusing to accept compliments or the good things that come his or her way. For example, someone compliments me on a painting I've just completed, and I reply, "It's not very good."
Loser: The loser is always comparing himself to others and how much better off they are than him. "Greg is so much more successful than me," I might think.
Overgeneralizer: One bad thing happens, and the overgeneralizer sees it as a pattern. A prospective client chooses another trainer, and I say to myself, "I am losing my edge. This is the beginning of the end."
Crystal Baller: The crystal baller knows what the future will bring, and it ain't good. One morning of rain, and I've decided the entire week's vacation is a wash-out.
Pitiful Me: Even the small setbacks become proofs that pitiful me will never enjoy a happy life. I miss the ferry and I think, "Nothing ever goes my way."
Labeler: Something silly happens, and the labeler begins name-calling. I find a spot on my tie and think to myself, "I am such a slob."
"Being in control of the mind means that literally anything that happens can be a source of joy," writes author Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. When we become conscious of stinking thinking, the choice is ours. I choose happiness.
As the rain pelts the window, I see the stack of trashy books I've bought for the beach. What better weather to curl up on the sofa and read? Ahhhh. What a wonderful vacation!
Latest Release from Simple Truths
I recently joined the Simple Truths VIP club, a great program that allows me to receive an advance copy of the latest inspirational "gem" from the people at Simple Truths. And I am so glad I did because I've already had the opportunity to read Even Eagles Need a Push by David McNally and Mac Anderson. If you or someone you know could use a dose of encouragement, then I strongly encourage you to get your hands on this book. It is a collection of beautifully written short essays about how encouragement made the difference in someone's life. It could be just the cure for a case of "stinking thinking"!
Even Eagles Need A Push
Your Best Life Starts Now!!
Could you use a "push" right now? Have you always wanted to have a coach but the price made it out of reach? Then take a look at Compass Life Coaching, www.mylifecompass.com/bmahalik. Or contact me at bettym@dynamic-coaching.com to discuss the coaching options available through Compass Life Coaching. Don't you deserve to be living your best life now?
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