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Dear Monday Morning Coach Readers --

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The Fundamental Shift


In the "Born Loser" comic strip for January 1, the character stands at the edge of echo canyon and shouts out "Happy New Year!" only to hear the echo return: "Same old, same old." Not a very uplifting prospect, to be sure. But if the truth be told, many of us, at least at an unconscious level, are living that paradigm. We stand on the precipice of a new year filled with possibilities but are anchored to the spot by our hidden "B.S."--belief systems, limiting paradigms and fundamental lies, and deep down, the fear that maybe this year will simply be more of the same.

So while the ink is still fresh on your new year's resolutions or while hope still stirs that this year will NOT be "same old, same old" take some time to ask yourself a few important questions:

  • What is the fundamental shift I need to make this year in order for it to be an over-the-top, dream-come-true, inspired living kind of year instead of "same old, same old"?

  • What old paradigm, belief system or hidden lie is it time to unearth, expose to the light of day and transform into an empowering vision of your happy new year?

  • What do you need to let go of in order to embrace what is waiting to be born in your life and or business?
Remember that a limiting belief system, paradigm or fundamental lie is a thought or condition that we've repeated to ourselves so often we assume it's true. It may in fact be no more the "truth" than that the moon is made of green cheese; but say a thing often enough and it becomes "as if" true to us. So as you read on, be willing to look at the deeply rooted belief that may be keeping you stuck. I'll share some of the "favorite" lies, limiting paradigms and B.S. I've used and heard from others over the years. Perhaps you'll recognize one as the "big Kahuna" for you. Perhaps there are several. Regardless, making the choice to live this year by design rather than default will start with you deciding which fundamental shift you need to make to break free to a truly happy, NEW year.

When I get the time, or I don't have time."
This is one of the most popular of the self-limiting beliefs. I can even hear some of you saying it right now. "Betty, I will do what you're recommending when I have more time. Right now, I have to (fill in the blank with any handy time-based excuse)." There will always be stuff in your in-basket screaming for attention. The urgent will always seem to trump the important. But as the German philosopher Goethe once wrote: "The things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least." Make now THE TIME you stop majoring in minors and make the time for what matters most to you in this new year.

"I'm not ready or 'good enough' to take that bold step forward."
Do you think anyone who attempts something even the slightest bit risky is ever fully "ready" as in 100% sure it will work out? The truth is, when we take even a nano step forward to follow a dream or big goal, the learning and perfecting process begins. Imagine a surgeon who waits until they are "ready" as in no fear to do his or her first operation. Imagine a baby waiting until they're "ready" or "good enough" to take their first step. Imagine a great performer or athlete who waits until they have achieved perfection before putting themselves in front of an audience or into a competition. Let's face it, none of us is ever ready if ready means perfection, guaranteed success, no room for error. But guess what, we don't have to be perfect to take the first step. We do have to be willing to take it and learn what we need from the feedback we get along the way. Once again, Goethe said it so eloquently: "Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it."

"When 'they' or 'it' changes, then I'll start following that dream or working toward that goal."
This is the equivalent of waiting til the cows come home or the moon turns to green cheese. The more you anchor your own actions to the inactions of another, or a set of circumstances over which you have little or no control, the more stuck you remain. What changes would you make or steps would you take if "they" or "it" were fully supporting you? Even if you're not ready to bite off the whole enchilada, what tiny action would you be willing to take to get in motion? Don't let another's resistance or behavior be the "reason" you don't pursue your dreams!

Other blockages to having an awesome, masterpiece of a year include:
  • Not forgiving yourself or another for a failure, disappointment or shortcoming. What we won't let go of will continue to hold us in place.

  • Relying only on your own energies and thoughts. Masterminding and collaborating with others produces synergy, one of the greatest aids to effectiveness and achievement. Speaker and author Mark Victor Hansen puts it perfectly: "One plus one doesn't equal two, it becomes the power of 11."

  • Failing to really get specific about what you want. As the Cheshire cat remarked, "If you don't know where you're going, then any road will do."

  • Not taking action. Any action is often sufficient to get the wheels turning. Just start."

  • Self-criticism in all of its myriad forms like: "I'm not good enough,organized enough, thin enough, rich enough, smart enough, focused enough," yada, yada, yada. William Shakespeare wrote: "Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt."


I'm convinced that each of us was designed to live big, inspired lives; lives that make a difference to ourselves, others and ultimately the world around us. Are you ready to have that kind of year or will it be as the Born Loser fears, "same old, same old." The choice is yours. The time is now. The year is new. Carpe Diem!

Betty


Quote of the Week:

"As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives."

~~Henry David Thoreau


"Transforming Your Potential into Performance!"
Betty Mahalik, PCC
Life & Business Coach, Trainer



bettym@dynamic-coaching.com
www.dynamic-coaching.com
Dynamic Solutions
5240 Mustang St.
Las Vegas, NV 89130


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